Share With Someone No Matter How Little!
To share means to give some of what you have to somebody else for nothing in return. The good book reiterates that blessed is the hand that giveth.
Though some people have often sought to know what happens to the hand taketh. Well, I think the difference, the hand that taketh takes human favours but the hand that giveth receives God’s blessings.
Sometimes we have allowed our lives to stagnate because we want to have so much before we can give out a single item.
We had denied ourselves progress or halted God’s blessings by holding what we are supposed to give others. Man by nature is a greedy being and will hardly ever get satisfied with having. Therefore, it can only be by a strong will and a lot self-disciplining to take giving as a calling.
A reporter once asked a farmer why his corn won the state fair contest every year. The farmer revealed that it was because he shared his seeds with neighbours. The perplexed reporter wondered why. The farmer’s answer: “Sir, don’t you know? The wind picks up pollen from ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbours grew inferior corn, cross-pollination would degrade the quality of my corn. If I am to grow good corn, I must help my neighbour do the same.” A simple lesson that nature teaches us, and we find difficult to imbibe. We pull down others in order to climb up. We clutch our possessions and refuse to share the good things of life.
Life is going sour for a lot of families in the Northwest and Southwest regions of Cameroon. Some people have even lost their lives because they did not have people who could share-secured or safe shelters with them. People who have the luck of living on the Francophone side of the country, have been helping to house some homeless people. This is because some people have been made homeless, destitute, orphans, widows etc. because of the war. Anyone living in a safe place in the Francophone and has not helped save a life is not grateful. What is sad about this saga is the fact that some Anglophones in the Francophone zones don’t see the need to help those back home.
The crisis has affected most persons and sectors in the country. I am one of those who have borne the brunt of the crisis. Due to lack of money, I started tertiary education later than usual. As if that was not enough the crisis came and now I had to wait another year trying to gather some money for school. This is because most economic activities of the affected regions have been grounded and it is just a hard nut to crack getting financial assistance from people who depend on the economic activities of those regions to survive. My poor parents are only farmers and we all have seen the effects of the war on farming. They are not able to send me foodstuff as usual. I could not afford tuition and house rents. So I stayed a while gathering coins. Now my point is this, as bad as it is, I was still not the worst the person. I was still better than a lot of people.
What kills us is that we keep comparing with people ahead of us but hardly do we look at who we’re better than. The fact that I had dropped out of school didn’t stop from having compassion for a friend who had missed writing the GCE Advanced level for three years and counting. I built a bridge behold the certificate is gotten just in one trial here me. I was not able to attend lessons and work simultaneously. So I decided to give another person the chance to get a better life.
If I didn’t do that I have been a dog in the manger. I got up as early as 8:am, worked the whole day and only went to bed as late as 3:30am like every day. I was chasing money for running the house. I am proud that in the end, it yielded the desired fruits. So I didn’t have much but I loved to share. Well, I might have had difficulty sharing if it was not for education. My grandfather had inculcated the place of education in this life and I don’t joke with education.
I also think that it is better to share with a friend than to borrow because borrowing might stress your relationship. That way when giving, you consider it as it is – just a gift. I need not point other cases where I have misappropriated funds handed to me for different purposes. When people rushed to me or when I see people who are struggling to feed or get a shelter overhead. Maybe it is because I have had that experience of being neglected, rejected and hungry.
A reporter once asked a farmer why his corn won the state fair contest every year. The farmer revealed that it was because he shared his seeds with neighbours. The perplexed reporter wondered why. The farmer’s answer: “Sir, don’t you know? The wind picks up pollen from ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbours grew inferior corn, cross-pollination would degrade the quality of my corn. If I am to grow good corn, I must help my neighbour do the same.” A simple lesson that nature teaches us, and we find difficult to imbibe. We pull down others in order to climb up. We clutch our possessions and refuse to share the good things of life.
Life is going sour for a lot of families in the Northwest and Southwest regions of Cameroon. Some people have even lost their lives because they did not have people who could share-secured or safe shelters with them. People who have the luck of living on the Francophone side of the country, have been helping to house some homeless people. This is because some people have been made homeless, destitute, orphans, widows etc. because of the war. Anyone living in a safe place in the Francophone and has not helped save a life is not grateful. What is sad about this saga is the fact that some Anglophones in the Francophone zones don’t see the need to help those back home.
The crisis has affected most persons and sectors in the country. I am one of those who have borne the brunt of the crisis. Due to lack of money, I started tertiary education later than usual. As if that was not enough the crisis came and now I had to wait another year trying to gather some money for school. This is because most economic activities of the affected regions have been grounded and it is just a hard nut to crack getting financial assistance from people who depend on the economic activities of those regions to survive. My poor parents are only farmers and we all have seen the effects of the war on farming. They are not able to send me foodstuff as usual. I could not afford tuition and house rents. So I stayed a while gathering coins. Now my point is this, as bad as it is, I was still not the worst the person. I was still better than a lot of people.
What kills us is that we keep comparing with people ahead of us but hardly do we look at who we’re better than. The fact that I had dropped out of school didn’t stop from having compassion for a friend who had missed writing the GCE Advanced level for three years and counting. I built a bridge behold the certificate is gotten just in one trial here me. I was not able to attend lessons and work simultaneously. So I decided to give another person the chance to get a better life.
If I didn’t do that I have been a dog in the manger. I got up as early as 8:am, worked the whole day and only went to bed as late as 3:30am like every day. I was chasing money for running the house. I am proud that in the end, it yielded the desired fruits. So I didn’t have much but I loved to share. Well, I might have had difficulty sharing if it was not for education. My grandfather had inculcated the place of education in this life and I don’t joke with education.
I also think that it is better to share with a friend than to borrow because borrowing might stress your relationship. That way when giving, you consider it as it is – just a gift. I need not point other cases where I have misappropriated funds handed to me for different purposes. When people rushed to me or when I see people who are struggling to feed or get a shelter overhead. Maybe it is because I have had that experience of being neglected, rejected and hungry.
I am so touched when I see people needing what I have. But hey I am never moved but any lazy person. I am always supermotivated to push higher someone putting efforts. This seriously true because though hard work pays but sometimes it is not only hard work. There are some people in this life that if prosperity depended on hard work the sky will their beginning. Special grace to bless it come from the Divine Maker.
I am encouraging you today, you need to get your blessings and start from sharing. Look around you, those who need your help are not far. You are definitely snubbing some of them if you are not helping somebody. Make it real, let the help not be to people who are connected to you. Do it for the sake of getting the ‘higher good’ Search your stuffy self and see what you are keeping that you don’t even use. Be careful, I did not say what cannot be used. Don’t use a needy person like a dumping ground. Share value, give them that good thing you enjoy, let them enjoy too.
This is because no matter how much a person achieves in this life it is not solely by his efforts. You should know people are born needy to be the source of your blessings. But if you see and make a mockery of them, then how would you expect to progress? We need to be building bridges towards reducing the inequalities that politics have inflicted on us.
I have had the pain of sacrificing to share knowledge at die-minutes to die exams because I know what it means to need. I, however, don’t blame people who have never needed or ever been desperate. Just look at someone close to you and ask yourself this: at my level what can I do for this person? Only then will you discover why your blessing was hanging. I know people I helped to get better who were cooking with gas cooker, while in cook with a stove. People who dress in better shoes and clothes than I do but I still share things with them. So sharing is a mindset. It is not guaranteed by how much a person has acquired.
Take a look at these salient facts about sharing:
1. Contrary to common thinking, studies have repeatedly proved that rather than decrease what you have, sharing only succeeds in starting a circle that brings back multifold benefits. Spiritualists say this, astrologers say it, doctors say it, and now scientists and scholars have also proved it with studies. But more than anything else, our own instinct tells us the same, as does our experience after giving away to a needy person.
2. Sharing is the one big reason for the magnificent success of social media. Sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, etc., enable people to share their thoughts, emotions, experiences, memories and even frustrations with thousands of others at one go. And instant ‘likes’, sympathy, empathy and consolation make for immediate brightening of spirits. Social interaction helps one’s physical and mental health. Engaging in positive sharing of emotions and thoughts, and contributing to each others’ feel-good experiences helps improve health and prolong life.
A study by neuroeconomics researcher Paul Zak showed that people who share and feel gratitude release oxytocin, a feel-good hormone and experience a reduction of stress hormones. Even 10 minutes of tweeting spikes a person’s level of oxytocin.
3. Sharing is, in fact, a very natural instinct in humans. Can you imagine where we would have been if our ancestors had not co-operated and shared food, shelter and arrangements of security? Through sharing resources, information and knowledge, we save time and energy and create free time for ourselves. Google and Wikipedia have gained gigantic proportions by sharing knowledge for free. Sharing also helps create trust, which is a prerequisite for security and happiness. When we share our feelings, knowledge and possessions with others, we create a relationship of trust, which in most cases flows back and helps us feel secure and happy.
4. Not just religions world over, but even top corporate leaders and thinkers believe in the benefits of giving and sharing. A survey at Harvard Business School in 2008 showed that when one gives away a sum of money, it helps lift his own well-being more than if he spends it on himself.
5. Not long ago, whenever any household prepared a special dish, invariably some of it would be sent to the neighbours. In turn, they would fill the dish with goodies before returning it. My mother remembers the many happy hours spent with neighbouring women baking, throwing away burnt dishes and then emerging triumphantly with successful ones. That is how we shared our experiences and our successes. There was always enough for everyone. Today, we make just enough for ourselves and have no time or inclination for sharing. As a result, most of us do not even know the people who live next door, leading to unsafe, insecure neighbourhoods and skirmishes over minor issues such as parking spaces or pets.
6. What is the use of an idea unless it is uttered? What good is a dream unless executed? What good are thoughts unless used to benefit others? What good is happiness or success unless shared? Those who wish to succeed must help others succeed, like the farmer on the cornfield. Those who wish to live well must help others do so. And if it is happiness you want, start spreading the warmth and goodness to others around.
I want to think you have another view about sharing? Get to work, all we want is a better world.
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This is because no matter how much a person achieves in this life it is not solely by his efforts. You should know people are born needy to be the source of your blessings. But if you see and make a mockery of them, then how would you expect to progress? We need to be building bridges towards reducing the inequalities that politics have inflicted on us.
I have had the pain of sacrificing to share knowledge at die-minutes to die exams because I know what it means to need. I, however, don’t blame people who have never needed or ever been desperate. Just look at someone close to you and ask yourself this: at my level what can I do for this person? Only then will you discover why your blessing was hanging. I know people I helped to get better who were cooking with gas cooker, while in cook with a stove. People who dress in better shoes and clothes than I do but I still share things with them. So sharing is a mindset. It is not guaranteed by how much a person has acquired.
Take a look at these salient facts about sharing:
1. Contrary to common thinking, studies have repeatedly proved that rather than decrease what you have, sharing only succeeds in starting a circle that brings back multifold benefits. Spiritualists say this, astrologers say it, doctors say it, and now scientists and scholars have also proved it with studies. But more than anything else, our own instinct tells us the same, as does our experience after giving away to a needy person.
2. Sharing is the one big reason for the magnificent success of social media. Sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, etc., enable people to share their thoughts, emotions, experiences, memories and even frustrations with thousands of others at one go. And instant ‘likes’, sympathy, empathy and consolation make for immediate brightening of spirits. Social interaction helps one’s physical and mental health. Engaging in positive sharing of emotions and thoughts, and contributing to each others’ feel-good experiences helps improve health and prolong life.
A study by neuroeconomics researcher Paul Zak showed that people who share and feel gratitude release oxytocin, a feel-good hormone and experience a reduction of stress hormones. Even 10 minutes of tweeting spikes a person’s level of oxytocin.
3. Sharing is, in fact, a very natural instinct in humans. Can you imagine where we would have been if our ancestors had not co-operated and shared food, shelter and arrangements of security? Through sharing resources, information and knowledge, we save time and energy and create free time for ourselves. Google and Wikipedia have gained gigantic proportions by sharing knowledge for free. Sharing also helps create trust, which is a prerequisite for security and happiness. When we share our feelings, knowledge and possessions with others, we create a relationship of trust, which in most cases flows back and helps us feel secure and happy.
4. Not just religions world over, but even top corporate leaders and thinkers believe in the benefits of giving and sharing. A survey at Harvard Business School in 2008 showed that when one gives away a sum of money, it helps lift his own well-being more than if he spends it on himself.
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| Share With Someone No Matter How Little! |
6. What is the use of an idea unless it is uttered? What good is a dream unless executed? What good are thoughts unless used to benefit others? What good is happiness or success unless shared? Those who wish to succeed must help others succeed, like the farmer on the cornfield. Those who wish to live well must help others do so. And if it is happiness you want, start spreading the warmth and goodness to others around.
I want to think you have another view about sharing? Get to work, all we want is a better world.
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